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help! BF cheating?

PostPosted: Thu Oct 17, 2013 11:08 pm
Author: Ute Scheller
i have a kurdish bf, we ve been together just for one week. i have a strong feeling that he's already married as i saw a very suspecious photo of him with ring on his finger and he's with a girl who also has the same ring.... .he commented on that photo and i dont understand. the girl also replied him...could anyone help me translate it to english? :sad: :sad:

dawakarm la yazdan tomm bo bhelet chonka Zhian bea manay nea bo mn

the g Zor supas, piroza la xosht dlakam.enshaallla xwa bo yakman

Re: help! BF cheating?

PostPosted: Fri Oct 18, 2013 6:24 am
Author: Piling
Not an expert in sorani, but it seems to be wedding wishes.

Re: help! BF cheating?

PostPosted: Fri Oct 18, 2013 8:16 am
Author: Londoner
Ute Scheller wrote:i have a kurdish bf, we ve been together just for one week. i have a strong feeling that he's already married as i saw a very suspecious photo of him with ring on his finger and he's with a girl who also has the same ring.... .he commented on that photo and i dont understand. the girl also replied him...could anyone help me translate it to english? :sad: :sad:

dawakarm la yazdan tomm bo bhelet chonka Zhian bea manay nea bo mn

the g Zor supas, piroza la xosht dlakam.enshaallla xwa bo yakman


dawakarm la yazdan tomm bo bhelet chonka Zhian bea manay nea bo mn = Exact transaltion: I ask God to protect you for me because life doesn't have the meaning for me.
I think he means: May God protect you for me because life doesn't have any meaning for me without you.

the g Zor supas, piroza la xosht dlakam.enshaallla xwa bo yakman= Exact translation: Many thanks, congratulation for having my heart. God willing for both of us.

She has not completed last sentence but I think she means: May God bring both of us together.

Sorry for being the bearer of a bad news.

Re: help! BF cheating?

PostPosted: Fri Oct 18, 2013 9:14 am
Author: Ute Scheller
Thank you all! this really broke my heart! i'm not sure if i could handle it. He's a fucking lier!!! I hate him! Hate him!!

Re: help! BF cheating?

PostPosted: Fri Oct 18, 2013 12:54 pm
Author: Shirko
Oh boy, here we go again :ymsick:

Re: help! BF cheating?

PostPosted: Fri Oct 18, 2013 4:06 pm
Author: Anthea
Ute Scheller wrote:Thank you all! this really broke my heart! i'm not sure if i could handle it. He's a fucking lier!!! I hate him! Hate him!!

SORRY but it is far better that you know now rather than to find out a year later after you have had a baby :sad:

Re: help! BF cheating?

PostPosted: Fri Oct 18, 2013 4:07 pm
Author: Piling
I wonder if he is the same serial-lover of which people talk about in the other post :shock:

Re: help! BF cheating?

PostPosted: Fri Oct 18, 2013 4:25 pm
Author: Anthea
HZKurdi wrote:Oh boy, here we go again :ymsick:

Unfortunately - on this site as almost everywhere else - all we here about are either those who have died fighting - those who are fighting - useless political figures - or lying Kurdish men - in fact most of the political figures are lying Kurdish men =))

We seldom if ever here about all the sweet lovely Kurdish ladies - who however badly they are treated remain loving and loyal :ymhug:

We seldom if ever here about people such as my closet friend - he has been in England for over 30 years and spends a great percentages of his time EVERY SINGLE DAY helping other Kurdish people - he could have set up a business and charged vast amounts of money to help others - but he has ALWAYS helped other people out of the kindness of his Kurdish heart :x

Most Kurdish men marry young and generally to a cousin - I believe most Kurdish men to be loyal to their Kurdish wives - but out of all the THOUSANDS of Kurds it has been my privilege to meet over the years - I have only known of ONE Kurdish man who married an English woman - and I have never met any at social events or celebrations

Re: help! BF cheating?

PostPosted: Fri Oct 18, 2013 5:20 pm
Author: Ute Scheller
i asked him what our relationship is today. he said i'm very special to him and completely denied his marriage and said i dont trust him. but didn't say i'm his girlfriend either, just very special friend. i didnt show him that photo as i want him to tell me truth himself....and now he said i'm just a special/best friend....
but he always ask me out for movies, dinners (he always paid), put his arms around me, hold my hands, hug me, gave me lots lots of compliments.. but we haven't kissed yet (we just know each other for two weeks and going out for one week!) i wonder if these sort of things are common between boys and girls as friends in your culture? i've never had boyfriend before and thought these things are far too much for friends???
Please!! I wish i could cry out...

Re: help! BF cheating?

PostPosted: Fri Oct 18, 2013 6:37 pm
Author: Piling
but he always ask me out for movies, dinners (he always paid), put his arms around me, hold my hands, hug me, gave me lots lots of compliments.. but we haven't kissed yet (we just know each other for two weeks and going out for one week!) i wonder if these sort of things are common between boys and girls as friends in your culture?


Not at all common between 2 friends. :D

I think you should tell him about the picture and ask who is this girl. He probably won't tell the truth. :-? So you could be sure he is engaged or married.

Re: help! BF cheating?

PostPosted: Fri Oct 18, 2013 6:48 pm
Author: talsor
I believe One user is creating multiple accounts , telling similar stories about how Kurdish men are cheaters .
Notice Same speech pattern , same grammatical mistakes , same structural mistakes . watch out for "Edits :-D " (which are luckily timed) after this post

Re: help! BF cheating?

PostPosted: Fri Oct 18, 2013 6:57 pm
Author: Piling
The 3 IP are different, though. And from different places.

Perhaps Kurds from UK have a very special strategy or there is only ONE who makes ravages and ruins in all the Island. :-D

Re: help! BF cheating?

PostPosted: Fri Oct 18, 2013 7:05 pm
Author: Anthea
Piling wrote:The 3 IP are different, though. And from different places.

Perhaps Kurds from UK have a very special strategy or there is only ONE who makes ravages and ruins in all the Island. :-D

Perhaps someone has written a book for Kurdish men on how to seduce English girls :ymdevil:

Re: help! BF cheating?

PostPosted: Fri Oct 18, 2013 7:09 pm
Author: Piling
Then, this writer is a genius, because obviously it works.

Re: help! BF cheating?

PostPosted: Fri Oct 18, 2013 7:14 pm
Author: Ute Scheller
Piling wrote:
but he always ask me out for movies, dinners (he always paid), put his arms around me, hold my hands, hug me, gave me lots lots of compliments.. but we haven't kissed yet (we just know each other for two weeks and going out for one week!) i wonder if these sort of things are common between boys and girls as friends in your culture?


Not at all common between 2 friends. :D

I think you should tell him about the picture and ask who is this girl. He probably won't tell the truth. :-? So you could be sure he is engaged or married.

i'm pretty much sure he's got married. i'm quite in the dilema...as he's said i'm just his special friend. if i questioned him about that photo, he would say that's someone else because that photo only has no faces in it and probably blame me mistake him as a boyfriend, as he never says i'm his girlfriend although he kept saying how pretty i am and i'm the most beautiful person he's ever seen...